The following is a small email thread that I sent out a couple weeks ago. I involves my Uncle Miron, a wise old sage of a man, and myself (I get no cool afterthought).
I agree, he makes an excellent argument, but to me, it is just that, a very good point of view backed-up with historical facts and it is hard to argue with Rev. Cozzens' logic, so I will not even try. Instead, I would like to give my humble thoughts as to why a real hard look needs to be taken as to why priests should or should not be allowed to marry. Too, unlike the Rev., I am not going to even try to get into the mind of God. Additionally, large, old, entrenched "businesses" like the Roman Catholic Church move slow. Gosh, look at all the negative fallout that came out of and still exists as a result of Vatican II, but that is a whole other issue.
To allow priests to marry just to solve the shortage is not a good reason, it is too simple of an answer to, what I believe, is a serious and economic issue. My Mom used to say, How can a priest give marriage advice when they have never been married?" I never bought in to her reasoning and we always were on opposite sides of the issue of married priests with Mom being pro-marriage. In all due respect to my Mom, her question, which is only a tiny bit of her side of the issue, is the same as saying that if I am depressed, I need to go to a psycologist who is also depressed in order to get help and one in a wheelchair at that would be better yet! Now I do not want to argue with the Carl Yung "Wounded Healer Theory" which I believe is valid in many ways, but I digress.
Priests, I believe, should be in the business of saving souls, bringing folks to have a personal relationship with Jesus and tending the flock. They should not have to worry about all kinds of "non-religious" work that takes then away from their true work at hand. A parish the size of St. Elizabeth should at least have a part-time, if not a full-time, business manager to handle the day-to-day operations of the parish. Surly a simplification, but Father Dale should not have to be concerned if the parish monthly utility bills have been paid. Spring-A-Rama is next week, a time when the parish community has the opportunity to come together, mingle and have fellowship. Sorry, it is about earning money to pay bills. Same with bingo, which a priest usually has to take time out of his "important" duties to say hi to the folks.
If we, the flock, want a church building, a school building, a rectory, etc., it needs to be paid for, period. The people in the pews do not want to hear about finances, hey, we all know the Roman Catholic Church is wealthy beyond belief why does our parish need "my" hard earned money? Let the Vatican sell some of those rare paintings and send the money to St. Elizabeth of Hungary Church! All of this brings me to the economic issues surrounding priests being allowed to marry. If your parish priest is married he is entitled to a salary that will support his family. Too, if the parish, at no cost, is not going to supply a private home for the priest and his wife, he needs a bigger salary. Throw a few or more children into the mix and instead of the priest being able to have a clear head while visiting the sick in the hospital, he is worried if he has enough money to purchase ground meat to go with the Hamburger Helper that is planned for tonight's dinner at home with the wife and children. No cost health insurance would be a nice job related benefit for the priest and his family along with a food allowance.
Oh yeah, I can just hear those pious folks on the parish committee, "I have to pay for part or all of my health benifits, why not Father". "Food allowance, are you kidding, let Father apply for Food Stamps". "Better yet, why doesn't Father's wife get a job outside the home just like my wife; I do not care if they have five children, that horney couple, why don't they practice birth control". $50,000 a year salary, ha, I do not earn that much and no priest worth his weight would even ask for that kind of money, don't they take some poverty vow, and too, no priest is worth that kind of money, he does not do any real labor". And on and on and on, the folks just do not want to pay the piper. Also, what about the stress of having a wife and children? Selfish, you bet, I want my priest treating me, at any time I want him to, as if I am the only concern he has during the moments he spends with me and he better be available on my time schedule, his wife and kids will just have to wait. "Father gave me some advice I did not appreciate, let's take a vote to fire him, you mean the last parish leaders gave him a five year contract, well, let's just buy him out and get a priest who cares about my feelings".
Purely from an economic standpoint, I do not think the folks are willing to pay the price of married priests. As it is, so many already balk at giving to support their parish.
Then there is the bad logic, if priests were allowed to marry there would not have been or ever will be another sex scandle. Not true! Being married, I believe, has nothing to do with perverts going after young boys. Again, another issue altogether.
If you are drawn to the priesthood then go for it with its rules and regulations. Every vocation comes with a price and a set of work rules. If you stray with one or many female relationships, that is between you and God. Everyone reading this knows of a certain priest who had affairs with women and even fathered a child, and I am willing to bet that every one of us would agree he was one of the "best" priests we ever knew, a priest among priests, who did what most of us would probably agree is what priests should do, watched over and nurtered the flock given to him to care for and love.
One question, why have you always thought priests should be allowed to marry? I would very much like you to expand on that and tear into my words above as I enjoy a lively debate of serious issues facing us. Take care...Uncle M